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7 Ways To Cope With Anxiety (And beat it!)

How do you stay positive, upbeat and free from anxiety? Recently a client  told me she’d felt great for a couple of weeks after her session and then started to feel anxious again… it should be said it was only her first session.

Ways to cope with anxiety by The Stresshacker
Combat anxiety with repetition

Despite the popular notion that some people are naturally optimistic, I explained that to stay confident, positive and to cope with anxiety better, you need to work at it.  It’s like going to the gym to  build strength and stamina  – it’s no good going once!

Firstly  you need a map to follow, a daily plan in order to create and maintain a better mind set, then repeat that plan consistently.

Coupled with the knowledge that on average people have 60’000 thoughts a day, most of which are re-runs from the days, weeks and months before, it’ makes sense  to choose different thoughts. If you are constantly thinking the worst doom and gloom thoughts, if you’re endlessly  judging and criticising yourself and others YOU are the one making yourself feel anxious.

Here are some useful ways to cope with anxiety:

1.  Stop Negative Thoughts – Embrace Positive Thoughts – Keep Anxiety At Bay

Do you know the fastest way to maintain positive thinking and dump negative thoughts and anxious feelings? Hypnosis! Hypnotherapists have a great understanding of language patterns and are skilled in the use of positive suggestions. I carefully craft hypnosis programmes to bypass the critical part of the mind so that positive, constructive suggestions are quickly taken on board by the subconscious mind.

2.Repetition.

Repetition is the mother of all skills and in a warped kind of way people often practice thinking anxious thoughts! How crazy is that! Why would anyone do that? It’s just bad habits, like eating junk food! If you want to sustain  a better mind-set you need to hear positive suggestions and encouraging ideas a lot, EVERY DAY EVEN!

Moreover there’s a  short cut,  want to know what it is? Go back and read No. 1 again it’s effortless!

The only discipline you need is to keep a listening device close to your bed at night, after the initial  21 days tune in a couple of times a week  to boost your new positive mind-set

It only takes 21 days to build the muscle memory necessary to create new habits.

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Train The Brain To Release Anxiety

3. Meditation.

In contrast to hypnosis  when you find ways to still the mind and give it a break from incessant thinking you can also interrupt the cycle of negative thinking. Think of it like changing channels on a radio, there are loud, provocative shouty stations and calm, relaxing programmes on a different station.

As a matter of fact look no further, go to the Free Stuff here and download your free meditation programmes as my gift to you for a more calm, positive 2020.

4.Develop an attitude of gratitude.

Stick a Post-it note where you will see it each day to remind yourself of something to be grateful for.  It doesn’t matter what it is. You can train your brain to turn negatives into positives. For example I balked at my tax bill recently then quickly reminded myself it means I’ve got a job, something many people would be grateful for. I’m still working on that one!

Gratitude
Being Grateful

Being grateful also encourages open-heartedness, you feel more able to give and receive. So do something nice for someone else and enjoy feeling uplifted.

Also have a look at what the expert on gratitude Robert Eamon has to say.

5. Recognise Your Success.

Similarly to gratitude, appreciation is the enemy of anxious feelings. One of my favourite exercises from our self-help book I Just Want To Be Happy really helps you value yourself.

Do it now quickly. Grab a pen and write an exhaustive list of your achievements. I mean everything, from your first swimming certificate, getting that promotion, buying that car to having your babies! Think of as many things as you can, you will be impressed by all  you have accomplished in life so far. If you’re not astounded by your achievements make this year the year you do all those things you’ve been putting off.

It is your job to make you happy I hope this spurs you on to go for it!

6. Sleep Well

Sleep is so important to our overall sense of wellbeing. Whether you’re a  5  or 8  hours-sleep person, the quality of your sleep matters. Develop good routines such as having a technology free bedroom. Go on, really flex your mental muscles and be disciplined enough to TURN YOUR ROUTER OFF over night!  Don’t take my word for it! Try it and discover a) how empowering that feels and b) notice the subtle energetic shift that improves your environment.

For other sleep support invest in the Sleep Well Now programme.

7. Exercise more

Equally we know that exercise is just as important and definitely helps reduce anxious feelings. If you want to feel better and think more positively, plan to get more oxygen into your bloodstream. Yoga, walking and swimming are great ways but really it doesn’t  matter what it is, DO SOME  EXERCISE. Train yourself to enjoy it! Make a commitment to regular exercise  at least three to four times a week.

Moreover when you agree to meet and exercise with a friend or colleague it strengthens your commitment.

So that’s a starter plan to keep you mentally and emotionally buoyant. I am excited to launch a new service at thestresshacker.com I am offering tailor-made hypnosis programmes to help you achieve your goals, improve your mind-set, reduce stress and cope with anxiety. Email me sue@thestresshacker.com to find out more.

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STOP SMOKING

It’s Stoptober when could there be a better time to Stop Smoking!

What do you shut up and light up and put up with…?

With the average packet of cigarettes costing around between £10 to £12, who can even afford to smoke these days?

I used to be a nicotine addict. I know what it’s like to have your every waking thought be about how soon you could have your next cigarette.

Worse still I did not fall into the category of a ‘habit’ smoker. You know, that annoying person who can have one or two socially and then not smoke again. No, not me I was a slave to it. It dominated every part of my life and my constant thoughts were about the addiction and also how to stop smoking. It had such a  terrible grip on me.

Because I’m somewhat of a control freak (towards myself not others) I couldn’t bear the idea that a piece of paper with some leaves in it, had control over me. Determined  to stop smoking I used everything I knew and I finally did it. I stopped. Moreover  I  have since helped hundreds of people to break the habit and deal with the underlying causes.

Are you serious about wanting to stop smoking?

you can do it and I’m here to tell you that 

IT’S EASIER THAN YOU THINK!

As you will see here, smokers are either habit or compulsive. If you fall into the ‘habit’ category and would like to stop smoking try this approach.

  1. Set a date to stop, say a month from now.
  2. Between now and then keep changing your brand of cigarettes to confuse the habit.
  3. Tell your friends that you are going to stop smoking (this way you become accountable).
  4. Leading up to your stop smoking date, avoid the ‘ritual’ cigarette. Thats the one you always have on your break or after dinner.
  5. Stop smoking in your usual places. In other words change the routine.
  6. Place your cigarettes out of reach so that each time you have one it is a ‘conscious’ action.
  7. Negotiate the odd fag! Ask yourself do I really need it? Drink a full glass of water and if you still want it have it.
  8. When you choose to have a cigarette or vape do it with full consciousness. I.E. don’t don’t do anything else just smoke it mindfully.
  9. Preparation: The day before your stop smoking day, get rid of all of the paraphernalia, ashtrays, lighters etc. Bin them!
  10. Make sure you’ve downloaded Stop Smoking Now from the shop at thestresshacker.com
  11. On your stop date Listen to Stop Smoking Now! Hypnosis Program first thing in the morning and last thing that night.

Compulsive smokers will need to explore the underlying emotions that drive them to smoke. That’s likely to be FAGS, Fear, Anger, Guilt, Shame or all of them.

If all traces of nicotine have left the body after 36 hours (faster if you go for regular steam baths) then you would think the addiction is no longer there wouldn’t you? So what are you left with? Thoughts and feelings.  Even the weakest willed person can change their thoughts… you think about a cigarette – change the thought, you could recite the words of a song for example. Feelings they can be less easy to change and they will need understanding, exploring and changing.

That’s easy, just book a session with me! Go to Work With Sue at thestresshacker.com.  Seriously I promise you you will feel so much happier when you reclaim your power back and stop smoking. There’s loads of free help too from the NHS here. So save your money and your health and break up with these bad boys now!

Let me know how you get on and if you have questions join me on the stresshacker’s facebook page and we can talk about it there or leave your comments below.

I’m also excited to share that I have a new Wellbeing online workshop coming up very soon so keep your eyes peeled as it also has some special offers in it.

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Ways to Travel Stress and Anxiety Free

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My top travel tips to stay stress and anxiety free when travelling.

It has literally changed my life. This is what happened…

I seemed to get a cold every time I went on holiday! This had been the pattern for over ten years. It  spoilt my trips and left me feeling miserable. I wanted to travel anxiety free.

Whilst swimming  in Thailand a couple of years ago and having a chat with myself, the way you do.  I was bemoaning the fact that I had yet another cold.  I’m healthy (other than a mild lung infection) and found it puzzling.

“Not Another cold! Why?”I said.

I heard a voice inside  reply ” It isn’t a cold.  Your airways  are inflamed from the air-con on the plane”  Nothing more, just that!  It was a real eureka moment as I recognised this truth.

I totally empowered myself with the following tips…

NLP:

First I future-paced my self with an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) suggestion. “By the time I get out of the sea all inflammation has left my lungs.”

I swam a bit longer then got out.  It was about an hour later that I realised that the ‘cold’ had gone, completely!  I’d had it for five days yet  it had totally disappeared! Not one more sniffle for the entire holiday.

Masks:

Secondly I went to a supermarket and bought some masks. Next I bought a lightweight scarf to wrap over my mouth and nose.

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Fewer colds and infections now.

Most importantly  I wear it for the entire flight whenever I travel now. Only removing it to eat or drink. I’m effectively recycling my own warm breath and this appears to have worked.

I had started to feel wary and anxious about holidays because of the cold scenario.

But now I can relax in the confident knowledge that I’ll be okay.

I’ve had three long haul and eight European flights since then and not one cold or sniffle!

I tell my fellow passenger that I have nothing contagious just a mild lung condition that is irritated by air-con. I’ve only had one person move and that gave me more room – result!

In conclusion this totally works for me and could help you too. If you have experienced similar problems or have asthma this could be the perfect solution.

Wear a snood, scarf or gloves:

I’m now trend-setting with an array of snoods!

Especially on cold damp days or on public transport. I stay healthy and therefore anxiety free in the knowledge that I have fewer colds and infections.

Setting a trend
Setting a trend

Oh and another tip – wear gloves where possible in public places. It can cut down on germs.

Remember that  Stress Free With Confidence is a reassuring programme to listen to if you have any fears around travel. Grab your  CD or download at the shop here at www.thestresshacker.com

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Who’s In Charge You Or Your Child?

Do you avoid doing jobs because the thought of it stresses you out? Do you give up on your health regime after that first glass of wine? Are you late for things simply because you didn’t leave on time? Chances are you’re letting your inner child take control of your life…
I know, I know, you start out with really good intentions at the begining of the week. You’re going to eat sensible, healthy foods. And yet by Tuesday you’re on your second take-away.

Have you ever considered that your inner child has taken over and is running the show!

Who's In Charge You Or Your Child? Stop Letting Your Child Rule Your Life - The Stresshacker

What Happens When You Let Your Inner Child Rule

That inner whining often goes something like this: “it’s not fair, I’m tired, I don’t want to work, I can’t be bothered to go shopping, I need a treat now, I deserve it!” And giving in to it means that you – the adult – are no longer in charge. Let’s face it if you were, you might be able to have a more grown-up conversation with yourself!

Your inner adult might say something like: “I know you feel like you deserve a treat, but if you do eat those crisps or drink that extra glass of wine, your workout at the gym will feel even harder and ultimately the dress you want to look stunning in next weekend will feel tight and uncomfortable. You’re just hungry let’s get something yummy and healthy to eat right now and if you still want crisps after you can have them!”

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Judging Ourselves and Others: How To Break The Habit

Pointing Finger of Judgement

Are You Sick Of Judging?

Judging ourselves and others can become a habit.

When Louisa was younger she used to love people watching with her sister when they were in the car. They would take it in turns to pick out a stranger who they would judge and criticise for something, each trying to out-do the other with insults.

When she was older Louisa felt more and more uncomfortable indulging in what had once felt like harmless fun.

She’d reasoned as a teenager that it didn’t hurt anyone because the strangers couldn’t hear them and it eased their boredom.

Years later however Louisa recognised that the discomfort she felt stemmed, not only from being mean to innocent strangers, but also because of what it told her about herself and her attitudes.

What our judgements say about us

If you can be unkind about a stranger, how mean are you to yourself? Do you spend a lot of  time criticising the way your friends and colleagues behave? Then you’re probably  harsh and critical about yourself.

Judging others means you’re judging yourself. When we point the finger of blame or judgment at another, you’ll notice three fingers pointing back at yourself. We levy a much heavier burden of judgment on ourselves when we judge others.

In life we tend to attract mirrors of ourselves, in our partners, friends and colleagues.

Look at the things in others that you like or dislike, love or hate, you’ll discover that they are aspects about yourself that you are not owning.

Consider the one thing that you find most abhorrent, something you believe you would NEVER do – be very careful, because you almost certainly house some aspect of that deep within your psyche!

So the next time your inner Judge starts pointing, be kinder to yourself and curl those fingers into a yoga mudra (gesture). Bring your thumb and index finger together and slowly repeat the words ‘I am peace, you are peace, there is peace’

Judging takes up a lot of psychic energy and takes us away from the here and now. Next time you catch yourself judging, distract your mind by singing the lyrics to a favourite tune.

Constant judgements mean that we are not accepting what is, which creates conflict and  creates mental turmoil.

Sack the Judge and treat yourself a to a mental holiday. Discover more peace and positivity when you retrain your brain with my positive thinking book and audio.

Enjoy!