Are you ready for a change of scene?
Had enough of your current job?
Feeling Burnt Out?
If you feel like you can’t continue in your current existence, you are not alone. Every year thousands of people reach a point where they can no longer continue working in the same way, with the same people or in the same job or industry.
You just wake up one morning and know that it’s time for a change.
I was in my mid-twenties when I reached that point. I had come to hate my job, the industry and I didn’t like most of the people I worked with either.
I felt trapped by the money, I had a mortgage from the age of 22 and the notion of walking away from a well paid job seemed totally reckless.
I was run down, stressed and miserable and as a result became pretty unwell. After the third spell in hospital, I recognised this as a massive nudge from somewhere deep inside, to wake me up, shake me up and take responsibility for changing my life. I realised I was waiting! Waiting for something to happen. Waiting for someone else to make my life different.
This was at the start of the self-help movement and I read hundreds of books to help me find the confidence and methods to make those changes. I developed a habit of getting clear about exactly what I wanted and then applying certain steps to make sure I got it. I’ve retrained in a number of different fields, Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Yoga, Reiki. I’ve become an author, a blogger and a jazz singer. I’ve since spent the best part of twenty-eight years helping thousands of people to redefine themselves, to follow their hearts and launch new careers. You can do it.
Want to know how? Here are my starting steps when I want to make change.
Firstly create some space where you can be still and quiet and ask yourself the following questions.
- What one thing am I really good at? What one thing do I seem to do naturally well?
Now ignore the voice that throws up the negatives and keep asking yourself that same question until you get some good answers.
I remember thinking defeatedly ‘I’m not really good at anything, there’s no area in which I excel.’ But I stuck at it and eventually a little voice said “You’re good at talking to people” It was true, I could stand at a bus stop and a total stranger would tell me their entire life story, then get on the bus and say “Do you know I’ve never told anyone that!” Eureka. That was it… the only thing I could come up with!
Yet that simple answer started a whole new career for me which I still love and enjoy with every cell in my body.
When you’ve come up with a couple of answers write them down, stick them on the back burner. The process is starting.
2. If I didn’t have to worry about what anyone else thinks. If I didn’t have to worry about money or how I would pay my bills. What would I do for work?
Again, ignore all the negative, whiney head trash that wants to bring you down. That’s your ego battling for position! Write down the stream of positives that come to mind, such as … “I’d work with animals, I’d travel the world, or I’d be a yoga teacher” Now put those ideas into the pot on the back burner.
In a few days some ideas will begin to brew. Watch out for them and write them down.
When you get some idea, some direction that doesn’t contain a negative, you’re ready for the next step.
3. Just suppose (imagine) you were going to do that thing… the idea that you thought of, how would you go about it? What would be your first step of enquiry? Can you google some information?
Can you find someone who’s doing what you’d like to do or has what it is you would like to have?
If so call or email them and ask if you can buy them, a coffee or lunch, explain that you would like to ask them some questions about their work. Be honest and transparent. Naturally some people will say no, but many are flattered be asked and want to help.
First gather this information. Gradually all the ideas, information and knowledge come together and you will feel excited. This is your cue. If it’s a feeling in your heart GO FOR IT!
Find a way to make this happen. Go back to learning, take that course in your spare time, negotiate taking some time out of the workplace. Do what you have to do to kick-start your new career. When it’s something you feel passionate about, trust me, it will not feel like work. You will be happy to be up to the early hours of the morning writing your plans, or studying, because you know that you are working toward something really meaningful to you. Something heartfelt and positive.
When you live, breathe and talk about your dreams you bring a powerful energy to it that will attract a similar resonance. If it’s your dharma (your calling) doors of opportunity will open for you, you will be wafted along pathways that will support your calling. You will meet the right people at the right time who will share similar dreams and values.
DO NOT share your dreams with people who criticise, judge and search out the negatives in your plans. Why would you. You need to believe in yourself and your dreams.
If you need additional inspiration or support to get you over your fears about making change, grab your copy of my book Super Charge Your Confidence and the accompanying download of the same name from my shop.
Let me know how you get on.
f… you get the idea? Stop waiting for someone else to meet your needs, meet your own.
One of the most liberating moments in my life was when I stopped hiding from myself.
