“No, I’ve never heard of that – what is the grief cycle?” my client asked when I mentioned the bereavement cycle. I went on to explain that it’s what happens when we experience loss.
That loss can be one of death, but a grief cycle can also be triggered by other events such as a divorce, moving house, a relationship breakdown, and retirement or job loss.
No matter what the relationship or situation was like, it can be a really bad time. There is a cycle of stages that will present themselves during the mourning process.
How do you speak to someone who is going through a bereavement?
1. There is never a ‘right time’ to die.
It is important to remember that there isn’t a “right time” to die. People often ask, “How old was he” and when told “84” respond with some thing like “Oh well, he had a good innings then” or “Well we’ve all go to go sometime.”
This can be deeply wounding and shocking to the person experiencing the loss.