Ah yes, our inner Judge. Where does it come from? More importantly how can we stop the incessant judgments?
From the moment we wake up until we go to sleep the ‘Judge’ or ‘Inner Critic’ is often present, judging others and judging ourselves. How we look, what we do, what we did, how we act. Yes, the Inner Judge presides and criticises all of it.
Well firstly, well done if you are able to even identify your ‘Inner Judge’ or ‘Inner Critic’, since most people don’t manage to separate themselves out from their Judge (and that isn’t a judgment!)
Secondly, you’ll need to be tenacious in order to keep observing the Judge from a different perspective or place.
Thirdly, you’ll need to have another place to go in order to watch or listen to the Judge at work.
Inner peace may hold some of the solutions to a better world.
When we see disturbing images in the media of the suffering of innocents in war zones. What can we do? We can choose not to view such things, to put our attention elsewhere, but is that denial?
Watching the news can be a truly unhappy experience. Often when we see something dreadful we can’t bear it, so we choose not to look.
But if we do look, the images and stories can stir up deep emotional unrest. Feelings such as anger, fear and helplessness can surface. These feelings can often stay with us for days, affecting our mood, thoughts and even our behaviours. (I once worked with someone who was so distressed by images of people suffering that her alcohol intake increased significantly after viewing such scenes.)
So what is the answer?
Sadly, I don’t have the solution to world peace! But there are things we can all do to help bring about a more peaceful world.
Metaphysics and other spiritual disciplines tell us that what ever we seek outside of ourselves, will elude us until it can be found on the inside. If we are a microcosm of the macrocosm – if we are a part of the whole – perhaps we can affect a change by finding peace within ourselves first.
Try this tiny change to your day that will have a big impact on how you feel…
Are you ready to find inner peace ?
Good then remember all those useful sayings:
Practice makes perfect.
Repetition is the master of all skill.
A little and often.
With this is mind, aim to find two or three spaces a day for the following exercise:
Sit upright, allow your gaze to soften so that rather than staring you are allowing the light around you to soak into your eyes.
Bring your awareness to your nostrils and use your nose to breathe throughout.
Begin to follow an inhalation – name it 1, hold the breath and call it 2, exhale and call it 3, pause and call it 4. That is one breath.
Do this SEVEN times.
Aim to be uninterrupted by random thoughts. Your focus is on the breath, so temporarily forget what’s going on around you.
Enjoy the feeling of the breath in your body, the stillness that is temporarily created, even though there may be noise and activity outside and around you (on a train for instance).
Once you have perfected the technique aim to increase the quiet spaces to at least SEVEN times a day.
Peace be with you and around you! Enjoy.
PS. I’d love to know how you got on with this! Drop me an email at Sue@thestresshacker.com and tell me 1. if you tried the meditation technique, 2. How many times a day you do it, and 3. how you’re feeling after trying it for a few days. Or just leave me a comment!