Ah yes, our inner Judge. Where does it come from? More importantly how can we stop the incessant judgments?
From the moment we wake up until we go to sleep the ‘Judge’ or ‘Inner Critic’ is often present, judging others and judging ourselves. How we look, what we do, what we did, how we act. Yes, the Inner Judge presides and criticises all of it.
Well firstly, well done if you are able to even identify your ‘Inner Judge’ or ‘Inner Critic’, since most people don’t manage to separate themselves out from their Judge (and that isn’t a judgment!)
Secondly, you’ll need to be tenacious in order to keep observing the Judge from a different perspective or place.
Thirdly, you’ll need to have another place to go in order to watch or listen to the Judge at work.
Do you know what an analeptic cycle is? I bet you know what a vicious cycle is!
Do you ever doubt yourself? Wonder if you’re quite good enough as a mother, daughter, son, friend, employee, employer or in any of the other roles we take up in life? Do you ever hear that little nagging voice in the back of the mind, or wake up to a stream of negative thoughts?
Welcome to life!
It’s totally normal to feel like this – most people do at some time or another. But did you know that there are things that you can do to quieten the negative chatter, to silence the inner critic?
Here’s one technique for stopping that inner critic
One of the most liberating moments in my life was when I stopped hiding from myself.
A few weeks back I talked about emotional immaturity in adults. I discussed how emotionally immaturity can be a sign that while someone has grown up physically, emotionally they may still have a long way to go. But how do you grow up emotionally?