“You wait, I’ll get you at break time.”
Words that resonate with anyone who was bullied at school.
If you were, it’s possible that you’re still being bullied, perhaps in your place of work, at home, on social media, or even as a mum at the school gates. You won’t believe how common that is.
Some years ago I co-founded a company www.wsm-wellbeing.co.uk that delivers Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) to Corporates. Thanks to the expertise of the Managing Director Steven Stanbury, we quickly had some major companies on our books. As the Clinical Services Manager I was responsible for setting up telephone counselling services. I dealt with many calls over time and can honestly say, that every caller who felt they were being bullied, had been the victim of bullying sometime earlier in their lives, sometimes at school and sometimes in their family.
It’s not for me to judge as a therapist, whether someone is being bullied or not. I’m far more interested in helping to empower that person and enable them to develop a more confident sense of self.
Thankfully with positive psychology and approaches such as NLP and hypnotherapy we have tools and techniques to change the way we think and feel.
It’s often said in psychology that there’s no such thing as reality, just our perception of reality. For example, you and I could witness a car accident and later sit down and write a report, with differing details, even down to the colour of the car!
So if you’re still being bullied, that’s enough now! No more. It’s time to do something about it. Get empowered! Seek help. Find someone to work with who will help you change your perception of the past and give you the tools to feel more empowered in the here and now.
Please know, that it is possible to reframe painful, past memories and to change your emotional and psychological state, in order to feel in control once again.
Watch out in the next week or so, for the new Assertive Empowerment Now download which will be available from the shop. This could form part of your strategy for making positive change.
Thanks for reading and please pass this on to anyone who you think might benefit.